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So, I'm Torrey. Born a California girl, always will be a California girl at heart. I have a huge heart that I frequently leave wide open when I shouldn't. I don't walk the earth for myself, I walk it so others will walk with me.

norsegays:

astrolope:

People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.

I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.

A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?

It is a big deal because i’m a transman. 

It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.

Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.

At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.

At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.

TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.

This is beautiful. 

#gay marriage #trans #transgender #trans ally #lgbt
5/14/2013
15:31:46
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fowlaaa:

THANK YOU.

People are mad at Ryder? Really? Sorry, but this boy has been through a lot. If Unique really did like Ryder and just want to get close to him, the time to come clean was 4 episodes ago in ‘Shooting Star.’ The opportunity was there when the phone rang right after Ryder said ‘She’s still a person and I care about her.’ But Unique didn’t take that opportunity.

In ‘Lights Out,’ the writers showed us Ryder’s growing trust issues. He told the whole Glee club his secret because Katie continued to stand him up. He was worried that this was someone he couldn’t trust anymore. And still Unique did not come clean. Still Unique did not take that chance to admit that it was her and that Ryder really could trust her.

So then we have tonight. Ryder’s frustrations and his trust issues and his hurt and his confusion all came to a head. He’s given the Catfish so many times to confess and for him to just try to cope with it. But they wait until it all explodes to reveal who it is, so how can people possibly be mad at Ryder for not wanting to talk to her? And I’m sure he’ll talk to her again, they already showed them hug tonight after that. Fans need to remember that Ryder is still a high school boy and high school boys are dramatic. He’s not an asshole for saying he never wants to talk to Unique again. He had a right to be mad, no matter who it was. He was still mad when he thought it was Marley, and it’s very obvious that he had and probably still has really strong feelings for her. So why is he an asshole for being mad at Unique? Oh, right, he’s not.

No. 

Okay? Just no. Let me just say for starters here that I am a really big trans* ally. I have dated someone who was transgender, I have had best friends who are transgender and I am very close to the community. And it’s really sad to me that a lot of people do not have any kind of a proper understanding about being transgender and how hard it is. 

Before Shooting Star, before anything EVER happened, Ryder made a fatal mistake. He called Unique a boy. Misgendering transgender people is one of the most offensive, demeaning things you can EVER do to someone who is trans. They live their whole life with a different self perception, knowing who they are on the inside with no one who is going to believe it. People who are trans, pre-hormones are misgendered all the time and it would be the equivalent basically of someone calling you by a gender you are not every single day. Being trans is a BATTLE. It is SO freaking hard. No one understands it, parents usually (unless the parents are wonderful then I give them all my respect) shut the child out or tell them they are making it up or force them  to be the gender they were born, and that person is TRAPPED in the wrong body, and they get suicidal, depressed, and this is a serious issue. 

What Ryder said to Unique during “Feud” was absolutely uncalled for. I used to like Ryder, and that completely turned me off of him as a character. He had opportunities to make up for it, and even when it came down to him making up for it, the best he could do was “I’m sorry, dude.” REALLY? ARE YOU SERIOUS? 

This is the thing. As far as the catfishing goes, I COMPLETELY understand that. I understand putting your feelings out on the line for someone who doesn’t exist, and being devastated by that. Catfishing is bad, and I’m not saying that the way it happened necessarily is okay. But the thing is, Ryder MADE HIMSELF unapproachable. And he did that by misgendering Unique, and by showing he clearly was unable to accept her as the woman she is when everyone else in Glee was able to. Glee’s portrayal of transgender is crude. There are a lot of comments made about Unique that I disagree with, but the biggest ones came out of Ryder’s mouth in “Feud”. So yeah, even if he was upset, even if he was pissed that he was “screwed over”, the thing is, Unique was hurt more. For all we know, she could have really liked him a lot. The whole reason that she even approached Ryder in the first place about the Feud could have been because she wanted to sing a duet with him because she likes him. Granted, it’s Glee, and I’m probably looking into this WAY too much, but Ryder had his chances. Unique gave him chances and he continually shut her out. So why should she have revealed herself to a person who clearly does not accept her for who she is?

Sorry. After what Ryder has done to Unique, I just can’t stand with him anymore. Maybe a lot of people would react the same way, but I just can’t stand that. It makes me SO angry when I see transgender friends of mine misgendered and treated like they aren’t the people that they are, and that was what Ryder did to Unique FIRST. So no. I am not going to stand with him just because he’s a “high school boy”, and I really wish people would give the transgender issue more credit and attention. 

#ryder lynn #unique adams #trans #transgender #trans ally #lgbt
5/9/2013
22:03:35
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So, because I’ve been into this recently…

I made myself a social rights/equality/politics blog. :3 Follow if you stand with me! 

http://thelittlesocialliberal.tumblr.com/

#pro choice #equality #lgbt #feminist #liberal
5/7/2013
17:25:24

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chews-n-brews:

messed-up-youthful-innocence:

miser0:

killyourdemons:

I’ve been told this too many times to count. Along with: 

“You have lady parts, therefore you’re a girl.” “No, I will not use male pronouns.” “But you’re such a pretty girl.” “Wow, shave your legs!” “If you were meant to be a boy, God would have made you one.” “You look ugly without makeup though.” “I’d date you if you had a dick.”and my personal favorite:“You need to get your head checked…” 


Never say any of these things to anyone.

Why are people so fucking cruel?

I’d date you if you had a dick…

Ugh. Seriously. Can more people see this fucking post please and appreciate it because there are too many people who just do not understand how fucking cruel it is to call someone by the wrong gender because “they have certain parts”. I am not even transgender and I can see how fucking awful it is what the fuck is wrong with people

chews-n-brews:

messed-up-youthful-innocence:

miser0:

killyourdemons:

I’ve been told this too many times to count. Along with: 

“You have lady parts, therefore you’re a girl.” 
“No, I will not use male pronouns.”
“But you’re such a pretty girl.”
“Wow, shave your legs!” 
“If you were meant to be a boy, God would have made you one.”
“You look ugly without makeup though.” 
“I’d date you if you had a dick.”
and my personal favorite:
“You need to get your head checked…” 

Never say any of these things to anyone.

Why are people so fucking cruel?

I’d date you if you had a dick…

Ugh. Seriously. Can more people see this fucking post please and appreciate it because there are too many people who just do not understand how fucking cruel it is to call someone by the wrong gender because “they have certain parts”. I am not even transgender and I can see how fucking awful it is what the fuck is wrong with people

#trans #transgender #lgbt #this
4/30/2013
18:04:59
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maketheworldweknowdisappear:

nighttrotter:

willishereandnow:

strangelina:

mrsmelchiorgabor:

this is what heterophobia would look like if it was real. if you believe that heterophobia is a real thing that exists, please watch this because you will see that it simply doesn’t exist, that it never has and never will. 

tbh I think everyone should watch this anyway because it’s very clever and very powerful

i’m crying and no i’m not joking. 

I literally saw this on my Facebook this morning and got chills. 

This video is so, SO powerful. EVERYONE needs to see it. 

#gay marriage #lgbt #equality
4/25/2013
14:01:20
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Gay Marriage Educated Debate

So, with all the gay marriage circulating around on the Internet right now because of Congress’s decision, I ended up messaging something about it to people who had an anti gay marriage logo of a plus sign, representing the man and woman bonding instead of an equal sign. I found a few people with the same anti marriage logo and sent them something, not really expecting a response. But then I got a response from one of them, and we actually had a highly educated debate about the subject. Because Tumblr is particularly passionate about the issue, I decided to share this conversation with all of you. The conversation started by me sending him the following image: 

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The conversation is under the cut.

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#gay marriage #lgbt #christianity #catholicism #the bible
3/29/2013
21:29:00
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Okay, brief rant here.

No one kill me for saying this. 

But I honestly don’t think that anything BUT gay marriage should be given the currently level of awareness and attention on Facebook it has right now. 

Why?

I’ve seen a lot of posts going around on Tumblr saying that we should focus on the homelessness of the LGBT community or giving the idea of trans* more awareness instead. I do agree that they need more attention, but the the thing that people on Tumblr don’t seem to understand is that we as a society and country aren’t there yet. 

I mean honestly if there are people out there who still honestly believe gay marriage is a sin and that it destroys the institution of marriage, how do you expect them to respond to defending other parts of LGBT, particularly trans* ? 

I’m not trying to say I am anti awareness, I think everyone needs to be more educated about these things. I’m just making a point that as a society we just aren’t there yet. Those kinds of issues are honestly not even going to be touched on for a good fifty years, so the fact that people on Tumblr are bitter about the fact that it isn’t being talked about more is a little ridiculous to me. Calm down. 

You have to realize that Tumblr is a liberal flaming homosexual bubble of people who really love LGBT and are probably educated on it more than like 90% of the population outside of our little world. Yeah, I think people who don’t support gay marriage and all of these things live in a bubble, and I think most of them just aren’t exposed to gay and lesbian men and women, let alone bisexual pansexual trans* men and women as well. People are ignorant and it takes a LONG time to change that. Generations and generations. People on Tumblr are for the most part decades ahead of the general population in equality and education in LGBT areas. But you have to know and understand that the rest of the country isn’t there yet. 

So uh, yeah, I’m going to be keeping my profile picture the red equality sign, thank you very much. Because right now, it’s about gay marriage and it is where our society is. This is the issue that is pressing us right now as a whole, and to make comments saying that we shouldn’t be focusing on gay marriage when other issues need more attention isn’t helpful. Because it’s just not going to happen for a good fifty years, I’m just telling you right now. 

#equality #lgbt #trans #transgender #gay marriage
3/27/2013
17:24:00
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the-ass-of-legolas:

guys

France just legalized gay marriage

and any foreigner can get married in France too, even if their own country does not permit it

you go, France

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#YES #FRANCE #WIN #gay marriage #lgbt
2/3/2013
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Happy Coming Out Day Everyone <3

I just wanted to say how proud I am of anyone and everyone who has the bravery to come out and to be the person they want to be, I just think it is so amazing and I will always accept everyone and anyone for being lesbian, bi, gay, or transgender. The LGBT community truly has helped me to meet some of my favorite people out there, and I just could not be more supportive of anyone who supports it or is apart of it. For real.

And if ANY of you guys ever want to come out but are afraid or want to talk about it, I am ALWAYS more than willing to talk to you on Anon. My ask box is always open <3

#lgbt #gay #bisexual #lesbian #transgender #pride #coming out day
10/11/2012
18:38:14

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“The New Rachel” : My Likes and Dislikes

Likes: 

  • MARLEY! I never thought I would like her, but I am absolutely in LOVE with her. She and her mom are both so adorable and she’s really talented. She might just be the reason I want to keep watching this season. 
  • BURT HUMMEL. The greatest father in the history of television, hands down.
  • CASSANDRA. I actually really like her. And just like, Kate Hudson, unf. Maybe I like her because she’s giving Rachel the reality check she deserves, but hey, I’m good with that. More than good with that. She’s epic.
  • SUE’S BABY. Dear god I just wanted to keep that adorable little child in my pocket forever. I have so many mommy Sue feelings. 
  • BRODY. Another character I didn’t expect to like…. but he is so hot and beautiful and nice and wkjfjbejkbgkjthe yes. I approve.
  • Kurt’s Plot…. like as much as I really am pissed he didn’t get into NYADA like he WOULD have if it were the real world and not the Rachel Berry show… I’m content with what they are doing with him at least, so that is good.
  • Darren singing It’s Time. Just because I LOVE that song and I love Darren’s voice. Not because of Blaine. THAT is a whole separate opinion of mine.

Dislikes:

    • The lack of Santana Lopez in the episode, also known as my all time favorite Glee character.
    • Kitty. Mostly because she’s like a hybrid carbon copy of both Quinn and Santana, and it’s annoying. Like, Dianna even wants to quit Glee or something because of it, and I don’t blame her. Kitty bugs me.
    • Blaine being transphobic?! What the HELL? I was like OH HELL NO to that. The whole “only dress up for performances” thing?! Excuse, Blaine Anderson, get the fuck out. I also love how the whole Blaine fandom until now has failed to acknowledge that he has this asshole side to him when it has been there the ENTIRE time. This is nothing new, ladies and gentleman. It’s just more assholeish than usual.
    • The way they have Unique wear like, just make up dressed as a guy. LIKE NO. Trans people believe it or not, Ryan Murphy, TRY to pass. They don’t just alternate from day to day depending on who they feel like being that day. It is disrespectful to the trans community and disrespectful to Unique and just disrespectful in general.
    • How being trans on Glee is this foreign freakish thing and being gay is praised like it’s the best thing ever. NEWSFLASH RYAN MURPHY, THEY ARE IN THE SAME COMMUNITY. 
#marley rose #burt hummel #blaine anderson #unique adams #lgbt #wade adams #glee #glee season 4 #the new rachel
9/14/2012
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